The Holy Spirit plays a much more important role in our lives than I realized prior to wrestling with how Jesus led and what that meant for me as a parent. As I studied Jesus and how He handled issues in broken people’s lives it was challenging. Whether it was the woman at the well, the adulterous woman or the disciples wanting to know who was greatest among them, Jesus’ response was caring, kind and vastly different than how I responded or reacted as a parent. Read More →
Over 1,000 families signed up for our Influential Parenting Academy in just over four weeks. As a result I have been receiving more phone calls from parents related to their kids. Many of these calls come from parents who have finished the class and are about to begin the implementation process or have taken the first few steps of the implementation process. Read More →
Only twice in the New Testament does God the Father speak audibly to mankind; once at the baptism of Jesus and secondly on a mountain when Jesus was revealed in glory to Peter, James and John. All of the first 3 gospels record the events. Not to be disrespectful in any way, but I can’t help but picture the Father up there looking down, placing his thumbs behind His lapels, puffing out His chest and saying, “Datsa my Boy!” (I think that’s in an Italian translation!). And in each case he calls Jesus “my beloved son”. How do you think Jesus felt on hearing that? And could there be a more joyful, affirming sound to a son or daughter than hearing his or her father bragging about his love for them?
In this series we will delve into the most important topic, Love. When we are feeling loved we feel special, content and happy. When we are feeling rejected, we feel hurt, angry and withdrawn. Keeping a sense of love alive between family members is challenging given our pace of life. Activities and commitments pull us apart and create pressure on both parents and kids. Read More →
Patience is so important for our lives and health. It will impact the quality of our relationships and the culture of our families. This week we’re exploring how patience and personality type interacts with each other.
In our first week we looked at research that proves that it’s the relationship we have with our kids that actually protects them, not the way we approach them or our boundaries and consequences. Second we revealed that Impatience is on our side of the ledger. It’s not a result of our kid’s behavior. Finally we explored why the root of impatience is selfishness. Impatience comes when our goals and objectives are impeded or they’re not happening in a timely manner.
In week two we talked about Patience and Triggers. Triggers are really important to understand because they override our best intentions and self control. When we trigger, we will overreact. We looked at self awareness strategies that help us head triggers off at the pass. Then we discussed deeper healing so we are not constantly expending energy trying to catch ourselves.
As we think about patience and our personalities, we need to recognize that some personality types will naturally exhibit more patience than others. If you’re like me and find yourself on the other side of the equation, that’s ok. We’re going to explore why and what we can do to alter the focus and priorities to help us understand and become more patient moms and dads.
I throw myself into this for a reason. Patience was difficult for me given my natural personality. It took a concerted effort to become a more patient, compassionate person. As a result, I now see patience and compassion being tied together. When we have little compassion for others feelings, we tend to have less patience with them. Read More →
Hey, it’s great to be back with you again this week. I’m Jeff Schadt, the founder of Revive Family, and we’re continuing in the series, “Mama Bear, Amazing Moms. You moms really are amazing! My research has opened my eyes and even slapped me in the face a bit because moms work an average of 98.5 hours a week. It is no wonder so many moms are tired. Dads, this is why I hope you are listening to this series so you gain some insights into how you can come alongside your wife and help her get the breaks she needs.
In session one we talked about the risk of amazing moms being able to do it all. Putting in all those hours and emotional energy puts them at risk of a state of exhaustion.
In session two of this series, we addressed all the stress and pressure moms feel: the internal pressure they put on themselves, societal pressures, and the pressures moms tend to put on each other.
In this session we’re talking about how moms can take some of the stress and pressure off of themselves and raise content, happy, caring kids.
Last week in session two I mentioned a Harvard study that shows kids of working moms grow up just as happy as those with stay-at- home moms. Does that surprise you? It did me a bit because I’ve been raised in a culture that tells me that stay-at-home moms will have happier, more successful kids. I think this is part of the reason I found doing the research with 4,000 kids so challenging, because I had adopted a mindset that focused on the right and wrong in parenting. The kids blew me out of the water over and over again. One aspect of parenting that really challenged me was kids’ need for autonomy.
Autonomy is Important for Kids and Scary for Parents
Thanks for returning today. I’m Jeff Schadt, the founder of Revive Family. I hope you had a truly blessed, peaceful, and meaningful Christmas. If you didn’t read or listen to the Meaningful Christmas blog or Podcast series I would recommend it. It deals with the essential building blocks of healthy relationships, which build the platform for compassionate families.
Many of us set New Year’s resolutions; with New Year’s just a few days away, I would recommend that we adopt the goal of having compassionate families in 2020 or Compassion 2020!
It is clear from research as well as what we see happening in society that compassion is on the decline in our country especially among college students and our kids. We are losing our ability to relate to, understand and care about one another’s perspectives and feelings.
While compassion may not be something we talk about in parenting, I believe it’s absolutely essential to having the types of homes and kids that we desire. Before we go further, we need to understand the definition of compassion. Read More →
As we pursue A Meaningful Christmas, we talked last week about how giving, sharing, and gratefulness impact how we’re feeling, our outlook on life, and even our health. Celebrating Jesus birth is a great time to give, share and be grateful for the blessings that we’ve received. Doing this as a family can make a real difference. Harvard University conducted a seventy-five year study into what leads to true fulfillment in life. It concluded that fulfillment comes through relationships. If we are lonely or struggling to connect with the most important people in our lives, our family, it will be difficult to have a meaningful Christmas.
One of the challenges Deedee and I faced was understanding what led to healthy relationships. No one ever sat us down and taught us what the building blocks of a healthy relationship were nor did we have great models to follow.
It’s clear if we are to have a meaningful Christmas we need to enjoy our time both with God and together as a family, but how do we get there? How do we improve our relationships with our family members and with God? Read More →