At times we all desire for God to be our shield. Sadly many of the students I see do not see the Lord as a refuge. Read More →
Great faith-based parents are able to Escape Pressure and Expectations.
This may be counter to what we have heard or believe. We have been told that high expectations lead to higher achievement.
Is this true when living under pressure and a list of expectations increases stress, decreases patience, and often leads to internal negativity? Pressure and Expectations can flow from within or be placed on us externally. When we face significant pressure from within we tend to be hard on ourselves and often end up feeling like we are consistently falling short. We may feel or believe we are either not good enough or even a failure. These deeply held internal feelings/beliefs cause us to be defensive, driven, or even withdrawn depending on the situation and our personalities. Any of these may lead to challenges in either our relationships or jobs.
Healing within makes a huge difference in relationships within a family. Disappointments and wounds of the past cause fear, distrust or anger. When those things trigger something within us, we often assess the full weight of the uncomfortable or angry feelings to something our kid or spouse said or did. Had those sensitive spots or pools of pain in our hearts been healed, the impact of what was said or done would not have kicked off such strong feelings of pain, anger or hurt. This is just one of the reasons healing within is so important. Removing the pool of pain and triggers makes it far easier to be the type of loving, listening and strategic parent we desire to be. Read More →
Today we’re back with Amy who was with her family talking about depression last week.
Amy is a brave young woman for talking with us about many different issues. She serves as our insider speaking from a kid’s or adolescent’s perspective into so many of their issues. Amy, it’s great to have you back with us. Thank you so much. I have a question. Why are you willing to do this?
I Want to Help Others Understand and Grow
That is kind of a tough question for me. I think I’ve always been the type of person to want to help people before myself. After we did the first show, I realized that doing the show and helping other people really helped me grow and begin to overcome these things. It was really beneficial and powerful to speak openly and share with others.
Excellent. We’re hoping that this will help parents. We’re also hoping that we might have some parents who have their kids tune in with them so you could help those kids feel like they’re not alone in some of this as well. It’s great to have you.
A 14 Year Old’s Perspective on Faith Loss
Today we are talking about the loss of faith. There are different studies; some say 60%, 70%, 80% and even as high as 90% of the kids growing up in Christian homes are leaving the faith. I’ve had the privilege of working with about 3000 kids, talking about this topic with them in small groups and one on one interviews. I have a whole bunch of data in the back of my head related to that, but it’s always good to get a current 14 year old’s perspective directly as so many parents worry about this with their kids.
Thank you for joining me this week for Revive Family’s Connecting Hearts Blog as we continue in the series “Mama Bear – Amazing Moms.”
Last week we looked at the study that shows that the average mom works about 98 hours a week or 2.5 full time jobs. In many ways, moms are stronger than dads. They use more words every day than men, they have more emotional bandwidth, and clearly they have stamina to put in these kinds of hours. So I tip my hat to you moms out there who are listening. Dads, listen, this series is important for you too!
If you missed last week’s kickoff, I’d encourage you to go back and read or listen to it on our site. It was a really important blog for both moms and dads because it talks about the impact all these hours can have on moms. Dads, in this first session we see why it’s really important for our moms to get breaks.
When Moms are not Happy, Families are not Happy
Moms are amazing! They serve as the center of our families while facing more pressure and time constraints than ever before. According to all the research, this leaves many moms feeling weary, maybe even isolated or on the verge of burnout. The sheer number of hours that moms work, the pressure to be ‘super mom’ and the pressure that moms tend to put on themselves can take the joy out of life. If moms aren’t happy, research shows that families aren’t happy.
This week we’re going to talk about dealing with the stress and isolation a mom can experience. Read More →
Thanks for returning today. I’m Jeff Schadt, the founder of Revive Family. I hope you had a truly blessed, peaceful, and meaningful Christmas. If you didn’t read or listen to the Meaningful Christmas blog or Podcast series I would recommend it. It deals with the essential building blocks of healthy relationships, which build the platform for compassionate families.
Many of us set New Year’s resolutions; with New Year’s just a few days away, I would recommend that we adopt the goal of having compassionate families in 2020 or Compassion 2020!
It is clear from research as well as what we see happening in society that compassion is on the decline in our country especially among college students and our kids. We are losing our ability to relate to, understand and care about one another’s perspectives and feelings.
While compassion may not be something we talk about in parenting, I believe it’s absolutely essential to having the types of homes and kids that we desire. Before we go further, we need to understand the definition of compassion. Read More →
As we pursue A Meaningful Christmas, we talked last week about how giving, sharing, and gratefulness impact how we’re feeling, our outlook on life, and even our health. Celebrating Jesus birth is a great time to give, share and be grateful for the blessings that we’ve received. Doing this as a family can make a real difference. Harvard University conducted a seventy-five year study into what leads to true fulfillment in life. It concluded that fulfillment comes through relationships. If we are lonely or struggling to connect with the most important people in our lives, our family, it will be difficult to have a meaningful Christmas.
One of the challenges I faced was understanding what led to healthy relationships. No one ever sat us down and taught us what the building blocks of a healthy relationship were nor did we have great models to follow.
It’s clear if we are to have a meaningful Christmas we need to enjoy our time both with God and together as a family, but how do we get there? How do we improve our relationships with our family members and with God? Read More →
The research I did for my book, Going, Going, Gone, made it clear that we need to examine how we talk about and teach the Faith to our kids. Too many kids are leaving the Faith today. Seventy, eighty or even ninety percent of kids depart the faith; it depends on whom you talk to. Read More →
This is the second installment in a series that is close to my heart. We are focusing on how the church can stem the tide of young people leaving the faith and how we as parents can help to ensure that our own children learn to love and follow the real Jesus. In my last podcast and blog post, I talked about how the way that the church and parents communicate Christianity often ends up turning kids off. As I wrote: “Today’s young people are less concerned with right and wrong, facts, knowledge, and truth than were previous generations. Instead, they are much more concerned about accepting and caring about other people, no matter what their lifestyles may be.” Read More →